We all want to succeed. Few of us, however, realize how much we get in the way of our own abilities to do so. The more we commit ourselves to the choice of mind over emotion, the more likely we are to reach our goals. In his book, The Psychology of Self-Esteem, Nathan Branden writes, “To think or not to think, to focus his mind or to suspend it, is man’s act of choice, the one act directly within his volitional power…” Making the best choice helps us feel we can positively affect our lives and leads to feelings of self-confidence.
The minds of the most self-confident people I have met seem to be filled with positive thoughts. They look at real, physical obstacles as things that interfere with their movement and progress but see that these obstacles can be hurdled and removed. Imaginary problems slow us down the most and cause the most frustration and anguish. Imaginary problems may seem insurmountable. After all, how does one overcome a problem that doesn’t really exist? Fear and “what if” negative thinking can create such barriers. During the process of creating these “problems,” our own imagination and emotions get in the way of rational thought and behavior…in the way of peak performance. These moments are challenges to embrace and resolve, not danger to avoid. When we enjoy the challenge, we shape a positive reality for ourselves.
Do you see obstacles as dangerous threats or challenges to be overcome? Do you face your fear squarely and look at it logically? Do you allow your talents and strengths to look for solutions that lead to success? Do you take the rough spots one step at a time until you find the answer that works best for you and enjoy the outcome?