When Barb asked me to share my thoughts on listening, I said, “What?”
We all know how important it is to really listen when people speak. We need to give them our full attention and not be thinking about our responses instead — something that is easily stated but not so easily done. It takes training and practice.
I confess that paying attention to what someone is saying on the phone is especially hard for me when I’m sitting at my desk in front of my computer. There are just too many distractions. I have a good friend who helps me when we’re talking by asking me, “Are you still there?”
The listening I would like to comment on today is listening to what we tell ourselves. Do you really listen to what you’re telling yourself? Do you say to yourself, “I’ll never lose this weight” or “I’m not motivated”? Statements like these can be self-fulfilling prophecies.
It’s been said that your brain believes everything you tell it and will do everything in its power to make those statements true. The more you say those things to yourself, the harder your brain works. Instead, try saying some more positive statements such as, “I will lose this weight” or “When I lose this week, it will keep me motivated to continue my journey.”
Just like training ourselves to really listen to each other, we need to train ourselves and practice, practice, practice listening to the information we are sending to our brains.
And don’t think you have to do this alone. Just like the friend I have who helps me stay focused on my conversations with her, find a TOPS friend who can help you stay focused on “feeding” your brain with positive affirmations that will keep you on track for a healthier life.
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