My dear friend Deanna first introduced me to Jon Gordon and the danger of “Energy Vampires” getting aboard “The Energy Bus” I am driving.
According to Mr. Gordon, “An Energy Vampire is a person who will suck the life out of you with their tedium and monotony, leaving you bored, irritated, threatened or depressed. They are virtually incapable of seeing things from another person’s perspective. Lacking in empathy, they will take all they can from you. Avoid.”
I dare say that I have encountered a few such folks in my journey. They did seem to focus on trying to bring me down and were exhausting.
My father told me when I was a young girl that a true friend is a priceless, empowering and extremely rare treasure. He said that if I could fill the fingers of one hand with true friends, I was rich beyond all measure.
From Winnie the Pooh to Ernest Hemingway, there is tremendous agreement on what a friend is and how rarely they are found. Songwriters from Bill Withers to Bruno Mars celebrate the core values that a special friend has and the importance of such a person in your life. Songs like “Lean On Me,” “You’ve Got A Friend,” and “Bridge Over Troubled Water” are just a few that speak to the importance of friendship.
Below are some key characteristics of a friend.
- Good Listener
Friendship endures and stands the test of time. A key factor to achieving our goals is to surround ourselves with real friends who are powerful, positive supporters. They help celebrate our accomplishments without envy or jealousy. They listen and support when we face disappointment, pain or hardship. They don’t walk away when the going gets tough. They ask meaningful, thought-provoking questions that most people won’t. They will not enable our bad choices or accept our excuses. They listen deeply rather than talk about themselves or try to one-up our experiences. They challenge us to grow and grow with us. They say what they mean and mean what they say as they walk beside us.
I am blessed beyond belief to have a handful of such people and dote on them regularly. I hope you have even more friends to help you in your journey.
I Care, Barb