Following our chapter’s first quarter award meeting of this New Year, we engaged in one of my favorite activities: “What have you learned so far this year?” The question has been tossed out many times and usually gets the same responses.
Our leader added a bit to it this time to help everyone focus on what we are about. She asked:
- Have you made progress since January?
These additions required each of us to reflect on what we saw as our greatest area of concern and how we could improve in that area. Then, she added:
- What help do you need?
This question called to our attention our individual and group responsibilities to each other’s improvement.
As I tried to read our body language, I could see some of us acknowledging responses by nodding in agreement or approval. Sadly, I could also read a few who were acknowledging resistance by crossed arms and looking away or showing a complete lack of interest as they played with cell phones or talked with others. These are the people we most need to engage in our common purpose.
Each week, or more realistically, each day, we should take a bit of time to reflect on our performance. If we journal our feelings as well as our food intake, it may make it easier for us to see the patterns we have developed over the years.
At the end of each day, or the beginning of the next, perhaps we should ask ourselves a series of reflective questions.
- What triggered us to spin out of control?
- What kept us on the right path?
- What type of food did we reach for to cope with the feeling?
- What can we do next time to deal with a stressor without the food?
Think of the events that led up to that point and decide how it could have been different.
- Did you react rather than respond?
- Did you blame yourself or absorb the responsibility for something that was out of your control in the first place?
Reflecting on our choices and actions can help regain focus.
- Will eating something or more than you need solve anything?
- Will it make you feel better? Will it get you where you want to go?
Through the process of reflection, we will be able to create a plan that will move us forward, allowing us to reach our greatest goals. As you reflect, ask yourself if the plan is working. If not, change the plan!
I care, Barb
By Sylvia J Duncan May 18, 2014
Great blog, Barb.I often am so intent on moving forward that I forget to appreciate how far I have come.
I just re-read my journal entries from January and saw that Saturdays and Sundays still found me a little too lenient with the sweet stuff in the freezer. I like the question of what triggers this mood. Some things are just way too tempting.My son gave me sugar- free peppermint patties for Mother’s Day. Those are a little more healthy.
Thank you for some good insights.
By Jane Sears-Dundes May 12, 2014
Its funny how, I went through this exact emotion this weekend, when I seen such a large gain. I sat back and reflected as to where I was so far this year, and I wasn’t happy. I know I have some medical issues, but I need to work through them NOT letting the Scale reflect my spirit/mood. For this, I am thankful for you Barb and Carol for all you do.
Thanks for your words of wisdom.
By Barb Cady May 15, 2014
I will be cheering you forward through the challenges! I know you can do this.