Those of you who have been reading my blog since April of last year know the power of words. We spent our time wandering through the alphabet together, building our own personal, positive vocabulary. Those blogs are archived in Back to Basics for any who may have missed them.
We have 50-65,000 thoughts a day. Of those, 85% of what we think is negative and 95% of what we think is “recycled” material. Such negativity can definitely do damage to our self-esteem and affect our choices. I clearly remember the scene in the cartoon movie “Bambi” where Thumper the bunny made a remark about how badly Flower the skunk smelled. Thumper’s mother promptly interjected, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” I wish everyone was like Thumper’s mom! Negative words wound others and wound ourselves.
Are you your own worst critic? Take some time to listen to what you say about yourself in your mind or aloud, and jot those thoughts down. Do you cut yourself down? Do you decline doing something new because you might not be good at it? Do negative comments or experiences from the past echo in your memory? Would you rather be safe and stay in your comfort zone than take a chance at something new?
Maybe it is time to quiet that inner critic. Be forgiving and supportive. Do not expect perfection; aim for progress as you learn. Celebrate how far you have come. Allow yourself to make mistakes, as they are steps in learning. Thomas Edison was asked by a reporter how it felt to have failed 1,000 times to invent the light bulb. Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
Choose your words. Replace “I can’t” with “I can.” Replace “I’ll try” with “I will.” Replace problem with opportunity. Replace stressed with no problem. Do this for you. Learn from yesterday and start fresh today. Share your goals in a positive way and accept help. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
I Care, Barb