Want to be a better communicator or leader? Then, create better listeners!

What an interesting statement. Don’t leaders just speak and hope that there are great listeners in the audience? The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that we have actually communicated. Great communication depends upon our ability to connect with our audience whether we are delivering a message or simply talking with a group of friends.

We truly can help others listen more attentively and with better understanding to what we have to share.

• We must connect with the listeners and build on that relationship.
• We must show understanding and empathy and offer ideas.
• We must point to past successes and abilities.
• We must be willing to sacrifice so that others will benefit.

In truth, most people want to improve their situation in life. When they find someone who can communicate something of value to them, they will become great listeners.

To be a better communicator, learn how to create better listeners. It is difficult to find common ground with others when the only person you are focused on is yourself. The good news is that communicating is more skill than natural talent. So even if communication is lacking at this point, it can get better. I like the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson who said, “All great speakers were bad speakers first,” which means there is still hope for me. A few months ago, I challenged myself to make it through the holidays with a five-pound loss from that point. Many of you really listened and have been encouraging me and holding me accountable and your efforts are helping!

Thanks so much for not only listening but for letting me know you are there for me. My message for today is, “Together, we will make it through the holidays, healthily!”

I care, Barb