In the movie, “RESPECT,” recently made about Aretha Franklin’s life, Jennifer Hudson channels Aretha’s incredible talent. At the time of that song’s release, it was a powerful statement that everyone is entitled to be treated with respect. And in her song, “Think,” the line, “You better think (think), think about what you’re trying to do to me,” stands out so clearly.
So many who’ve dealt with expressions of weight bias and fat-shaming have learned how painful it feels to be treated with disrespect. In fact, some of us have even gone so far as to be disrespectful of others struggling with the disease of obesity who maybe haven’t been able to find the best way to manage the chronic condition. Being respectful is key to receiving respect. We get what we give.
- Offer a helping hand. This shows others that they’re valuable.
- Be kind. This is another way to demonstrate that you see others as worthwhile.
- Observe and attest. Find the positive qualities of others and let them and those around them know what you see.
- Listen to what others say. Turn off your cell phone. Make eye contact. Hear what they say and acknowledge it.
- Share your time, skills and knowledge with others. Giving your resources indicates you value the other person.
- Be polite. Use your words and actions to portray basic courtesy and consideration for others. Say “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.” Seasoning the conversation with respect costs nothing.
- Be grateful for what you receive from others, however big or small you may perceive it. What may seem quite small to you may be seen as a huge act by the giver. What matters is that the effort is acknowledged and appreciated.
When we give more than we get without keeping score, when we make sure to cause no harm, when we keep our word, when our words and actions are truthful, when we help others, when we are fair to everyone, when we are ourselves and don’t pretend to be who we are not, when we mean what we say, when we are humble, and when we refuse to gossip — we are showing respect.
It doesn’t matter how small the gesture is. Show it. Little drops make an ocean. You’ll probably find that respect is given to you in amazing abundance.
I Care, Barb
By Julie January 18, 2022
Love your blogs.
They are great!!!
By Shirley Renaud November 24, 2021
So very true Barb..So may times I’ve seen it..you get what you give..
Respect goes a long way. The saying,” unless you’ve walked a mile in my shoes..” Zip it and show love and respect We have no dea what someone is going through. So be kind..you can’t go wrong being kind! ♥
By Sandy Exelby November 24, 2021
Listening is an art. It is a challenge to keep from thinking and drawing on your own experience, ready to chime in without really hearing with interest what and why the speaker is sharing. Sometimes I make myself ask a question which helps me really listen and think instead of commenting.
By CK November 23, 2021
“R-E-S-P-E-C-T” — What a great song! Def. has meaning and agree w/you Barb!!! Thank you for reminding us of what is important; especially, when it comes to the “Golden Rule” which needs to be practiced more and not just stated–TRUE ENOUGH!
By Tamson Darland November 22, 2021
Yes, indeed Barb. Thank you for this wonderful article.
By Nan November 22, 2021
Years ago there was a TOPS group that gathered in the town where I lived. I never understood the “pay if you gain” mentality that was part of the group. It always seemed to me that went against treating others with respect. I wish they had simply charged a fee or did a free will offering.
By Nancy Strauss November 22, 2021
Yes we will get far if we show respect to everyone we come in connect with. This is something we all deserve. this has NOT been repeated .
By Nancy Strauss November 22, 2021
Yes we will get far if we show respect to everyone we come in connect with. This is something we all deserve.
By Florence Wilton November 22, 2021
Excellent “Moment of Truth”! You have a wonderful way of capturing essential truths in a concise, clear and caring way. Well done!
By Janet Long November 22, 2021
Thankyou Barb for great info about respect. With things going so fast today I think a lot of us have lost to stop and pay respect to others in all walks of life. Thanks again. Hugs Janet Long NC 97 Tops Albemarle, NC28001.
By Cheryl Valcourt November 22, 2021
Some gesture of kindness, no matter how small it might seem to you, can mean the “World” to the receiver! Words can hurt & stay with one forever. Be kind & thoughtful!
By Gina Brueske November 22, 2021
Good advise. Treat people like you would like to be treated.