“If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, chances are it is a duck.”
Like most people, my life, is governed by habituated patterns. Layer upon layer, I have established my identity by what I have (and continue to) observe, imitate and learn – which is how I come to behave. Seemingly insignificant repetitions, innocent cobwebs of watching and believing, turn into patterns, then unbreakable cables that will shackle or strengthen my life.
I grew up hearing statements like, “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” and “He’s a chip off the old block.” Both speak to the idea that many of us develop habits and patterns we observed from parents and other significant adults in our lives. If you are fortunate to have a very positive role model, this is a good thing. On the other hand, if your model demonstrates bad choices and behaviors, this might not be such a positive thing.
The good news is that we have a choice. While we might have a predisposition to develop the habits of our role models, we are not destined to do so. We can choose to find better models- someone who demonstrates habits and patterns of success. There are some excellent role models for me to emulate when it comes to reaching and maintaining a healthy weight. While I am not fortunate enough to share a home with them, I know them well and know they are more than willing to help me. They are demonstrating the patterns and habits I need to propel me into the healthier life I want and deserve. They are willing to help if I will only reach out.
Remember, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, chances are it is a duck. It is equally true that if it looks like an eagle, soars like an eagle and screeches like an eagle, chances are it is an eagle. Let’s see….duck or eagle? I think I know what I will decide!
I Care, Barb